New Year’s Resolutions = Love/Hate Relationship
Oh, how I need you, but don’t want to proclaim it,
My saggy bottom says: gym, but slothfulness sneaks in and says: in a little bit.
Reading my Bible more is always a must,
But my OCD for a clean house reminds me that I still see more dust.
Evan and Reese love going on adventures to learn,
But silly me is always taking a wrong turn.
I need to start an herb garden filled with basil, parsley and a sprinkle of chives,
But Candy Crush tells me: you now have more lives.
On February 14, Christian Gray will be in my sight,
But Timothy reminds me he is my knight.
That pretty much sums it up for me.
My top two New Year’s goals always include devoting more time with my Savior, and making sure I’m always adequately giving Tim, Evan and Reese my best. The best, the whole best and nothing but the best. I learned five years ago that gym membership ain’t gonna happen! Maybe in another ten years I can re-evaluate.
Here is a great article I found on The Happy Wives Club that helps explain my outlook on New Year’s resolutions. The article makes a great point on how individuals will make personal goals, fitness goals and organizational goals, but fail to make goals involving the most important person in one’s life: their spouse. It’s such a simple concept, but yet so profound. I pray everyone this year will make a resolution to better their marriage. The following was lifted from the aforementioned article:
10 Resolutions for Your Marriage:
1. Forgive and Forget.
This year, strive to forgive your spouse as soon as they apologize or ask for forgiveness. It’s easy to hold a grudge or to bring up past grievances, but letting these things go and forgiving your spouse can lead to a happier self and a happier marriage!
2. Spend More Time Together.
So many people are so busy, too busy. Life gets in the way and the important things in life tend to fall to the wayside. In 2015, resolute to spend more time with your spouse! Whether it be more date nights or more time at home together, I’m sure your spouse will appreciate having more of you in their life!
3. Put Your Spouse First.
In a day and age when there are so many things that scream for our attention, it’s important that our spouses feels like they are important in our lives. This year, determine to put your spouse above all the noise trying to attract your attention. Determine to put them first.
4. Seek God Together.
It’s sometimes easy to judge our spouse for the things they do, but learning to seek God together can help your relationship become stronger and help us learn to focus more on the things we need to fix in our own lives. Resolute in 2015 to seek God together and watch your relationship grow stronger together and in God!
5. Cultivate Common Interests.
It’s easy to do things that interest you personally, but why not learn some new hobbies with your spouse? This year, find some common interests that both you and your spouse would enjoy, and do them often! What better way to have fun with your spouse and learn more about them?
6. Work Toward Conflict Resolution.
No marriage is perfect, but a peaceful marriage is one to strive for! Let 2015 be the year you work toward healthy conflict resolution. Learn better strategies for your marriage and learn how to discuss things peacefully with your spouse. Strive toward healthy communication!
7. Keep the Passion Alive.
Maybe your marriage has gotten a little boring, you do the same things every day and nothing seems fun or out of the ordinary. Let 2015 be the year you change all that! Determine to keep the passion alive and help things get steamy instead of boring. You will both be thankful you did!
8. Flirt more!
Who doesn’t like to flirt a little with their spouse? It’s fun and brings back the spice you might remember from your dating years! This year, resolute to flirt more with your spouse. There are so many fun ways to flirt, and your spouse just might be surprised and happy that you started it!
9. Say, “I love you” every day.
A lot times it’s easy to assume that our spouse knows we love them. But there are so many different ways to say and show that you love them. This year, don’t let a day go by without saying it. Resolute to say, “I love you” in a special way every day.
10. Communicate Appreciation.
So many people feel under appreciated because their spouse doesn’t take the time to communicate appreciation for them and what they do. Don’t let another year go by without telling your spouse how much you appreciate them. Resolute to communicate appreciation as much as possible!